Answers to the most common inquiries are below. If you do not find what you are looking for, please review the sessions page or reach out directly through the contact page.
BOOKING & PROCESS
How do I request a session with You?
The first thing you want to do is educate yourself. Read as much as you can about Me and other providers in your area. Then think about yourself and your interests and listen to your intuition to determine how you want to proceed. If you believe you and I will share the chemistry required for a fulfilling BDSM experience, fill out and submit the application. Every potential sub is required to submit an application in order to be considered. There are an infinite number of reasons why I require this. The reason most applicable to you is that I use it to increase the certainty that you are in fact talking to Me.
What should I include in My inquiry?
Your preferred name, age, your BDSM experience and interests, your general availability, your limits, and how you want to move forward with screening. I consider both personal and professional play experience and if they are applicable you should include them in your application. I personally screen all potential clients. You can choose to use your ID or provide two verifiable references and their contact information. I also reserve the option of a 30-minute coffee meet for $200. This option is for those who have privacy concerns or for those who want to meet before scheduling a session to make sure there is chemistry and compatibility between us.
How far in advance should I reach out?
If I’m not traveling and I am staying at my apartment in Jersey City, I can theoretically be at the dungeon and ready in two hours. However, I do not like to rush my life like that. So at least a day in advance is the best practice. If you do get the kinky urge the same day and you have served Me before, send an email at the beginning of the day to inquire if our schedules align.
What is Your cancellation policy?
It’s a policy of politeness. If you have to cancel, be polite and tell Me as soon as you can. I will always confirm with you the morning of our session. If you confirm then cancel last minute or do not show up I won’t be pleased. Your deposit will not be returned nor will I allow you to apply to a future session. If you have to cancel our session and you properly communicate this to Me, you can apply your deposit towards our next session. This means your initial deposit is applied to My tribute and when you reschedule you have to make another deposit.
SCREENING & DISCRETION
Why do You require screening?
It’s actually for both of our safety. Yes, there was once a time where booking a session was much simpler, but those were simpler times. The internet dramatically lowered the barrier of access for those who seek a professional BDSM experience and for those who believe they can provide one. When you consent to participate in My screening process you are also creating a gesture that tells me I can trust that I am safe alone with you.
What does discretion mean — and what doesn’t it?
Discretion is of the utmost importance to Me. Because of this I do everything in my power to protect not only myself but also everyone I work with. All activities and personal information stays with Me and only Me. But discretion is not the same as anonymity. I don’t need all the details, but I do need some in order to screen.
Do You share or store My personal information?
All correspondences and exchanges of information only happen between My clients and Myself. I use this information to vet prospective clients. I also use it as a reference/guide when I set up or prepare for a session. After successful screening I delete/remove all data and information I no longer need. I do maintain records of session activities. I am the only one with access to My records and the only person who can possibly read my handwriting.
SESSIONS
What can I expect during a first session?
Before you arrive to our first session we would have already discussed your BDSM interests and limits. The simple answer is you can expect Me to structure our session around these. The details beyond this are very simple and straightforward. When you come in I will greet you and show you where to place your shoes and My tribute. Then I will politely talk to you for a few minutes to gauge your level of excitement, nervousness, or any other cues that may be emanating from you. Then I will tell you to use my bathroom amenities to relieve yourself and refresh yourself. The session begins after you step out of the bathroom. After the fun ends, again I will extend the offer for you to use my amenities to shower and reset yourself.
I am new to BDSM. Can I still session with You?
Yes, absolutely. My favorite pools of men to play with are men with little if not zero experience and men who have a lot of professional BDSM experience. I enjoy experienced men because the era they are from was an era of zero ambiguity over what type of bodily authority a Dominatrix had over a submissive. And I love working with men new to BDSM my softer side in a very sexy way. When I know that someone is brand I can to anticipate the things that might go through their mind. My empathetic and compassionate nature shine brightest in these scenarios where the most subtle things matter. For example, curled toes. What is the reason and what is the why?
Do You offer virtual or phone sessions?
The simple answer is yes. You can call Me and text with Me on Sextpanther. I also have an OnlyFans where you can see photoshoots, selfies, and a little more of my life. (Not that much more.) But I prefer my work to unfold in person. I find online play to be uninspiring and working with 3 interesting men is much more interesting than working with 300 faceless men. I also like the realness of in person. People are weirder in person. So yes, but keep your expectations low. Also, I am the only one with access to my online platforms therefore I am the only one who is interacting with you. If I don’t respond to you or you notice that I have been inactive for an extended period of time it’s because I’m busy. If you wish to interact with Me online the best and most efficient way to do this is to submit an application. In your application mention that you are requesting online services.
Do You offer extended sessions?
Yes, and I have categorized them as the following: multihour, overnight, and FMTY.
Multihour sessions are defined as a session that is over 3 hours long. The nature of multihour sessions greatly vary and are negotiated on an individual basis. The tribute for this session starts at $1,500.
Overnight sessions are defined as a session where play stops when I send you to bed and resumes when I wake you up and you sleep in the same room as Me. This structure is the same for all overnight sessions, but the details, dynamic, and space will vary. The tribute for an overnight session starts at $2,000. (The location of the overnight is not restricted to My dungeon. I enjoy all types of settings for overnights.)
FMTY sessions are defined as an arrangement where you bring Me to you. Like all extended sessions, these are also negotiated case by case. The tribute for a FMTY starts at $2,000 per night.
LOCATION & SPACE
Where are sessions held?
Most of my New Jersey and NYC client sessions take place at My dungeon in Jersey City, New Jersey. It is in Bergen Square and a 10-minute walk from the Journal Square PATH. Specific instructions for the dungeon are only given after successful screening and booking.
Do You travel or offer outcalls?
Yes to both. I frequently tour the Boston area every 8–10 weeks and visit D.C., Philly, Miami, and Chicago regularly. Check my announcements or social media for tour details. I offer outcalls within one hour to 90 minutes tops travel time radius. The minimum session length is two hours and I charge a travel fee of $100 in each direction.
Is Your space available for rental?
My dungeon is an extension of Myself. I have a very special and intimate connection to it. Because of this, or due to it, I find it necessary to keep it as something sacred to Me. I want my dungeon to always be a place where I am able to express Myself without the worries that come with a shared space of domination. The stress that waltzes behind renters tends to stay after the renter has left and it interferes with My peace and My connection to the dungeon. Ask any professional Dominatrix how they feel about their personal and private dungeons and you will discover that a Domme’s dungeon is consecrated land.
TRIBUTE & PAYMENT
What is tribute and how does it work?
Tribute is what is offered to Me in exchange for My skill, effort, and time. My tribute starts at $500. This is the industry standard you see advertised everywhere by established professional Dominatrices. Though, I will confess there is a strange problem permanently afflicting My tribute. Whenever someone has a problem with it, it does this thing where it rapidly starts increasing by 50 dollar increments. Even stranger, I’ve only seen it jump above $500 when people have a problem with it. Tributes are weird.
What forms of tribute do You accept?
Cash is always preferred. If acquiring cash or using cash is a challenge for you, please let Me know early into our communication. We can discuss other payment modalities.